The truth and nothing but the truth

False accusations, a weapon used by BM's to control and upset the balance we achieve in our homes. 

As a logical person I tend to look at things in a very straight forward manner.  If something is true it is true and if it is not, it is not.  Don't make things up and speak only about what you know for certain and your life will be much easier to manage.  So I have a hard time understanding the pull that BM's feel towards lying about things that have happened in your home.  Where, I must mention, she does not live. 

Accusations made by most of these women are very serious indeed.  And in fact if they were true I would expect any truly concerned parent to take much more serious steps then to merely hurl accusations at the kid's Dad.  Instead these women save the "good" stuff for court or to throw in our faces when things are not going their way.  Is this really a concerned parent or a women scorned? 

Recently the BM in my case accused DH and me of leaving a 7 yr old home alone and unattended.  It is a ridiculous and unfounded accusation and she waited to address it for a week.  She create a reality in her head and then expects the rest of us to live there with her.  In my mind if she thought a child was being neglected why would she not address it immediately.  The only reason I can think of is that she makes this shit up and then waits to see where it lands. 

Even writing this I find myself confused and disgusted by this practice.  It is dangerous and unnecessary.  Any insight that someone could offer me here would be appreciated.