rules of engagement after divorce-

The Ten Rules of Good Ex-Etiquette (as found on Bonus Families).

1. Put the children first.

2. Ask for help when you need it.

3. No badmouthing.

4. Biological parents make the rules; bonusparents uphold them.

5. Don’t be spiteful.

6. Don’t hold grudges.

7. Use empathy when problem solving.

8. Be honest and straightforward.

9. Respect each other’s turf.

10. Compromise whenever possible.

SO these are the rules they give us...how hard is it to live up to the "gold star" standard?  How do we accomplish this without buy-in from all parties?